Autumn is in full bloom. Splashes of red, orange, and gold punctuating a green canopy. Falling leaves blanketing lawns. Halloween decorations dot the neighborhood. A nip in the air and hot apple cider on the stove. Sweaters and scarves are go-to accessories.
Here in south Florida, the only red and orange we see is found in flaming sunsets across blue skies. There might be the occasional falling leaf, but for the most part, the only thing blanketing our lawns are grass clippings from the last mowing. And we’re not quite ready for hot apple cider. Cold water and iced lattes are still the beverages of choice. Sweaters and scarves? Not for another few months, when a “cold front” slips through and the temperature dips into the 50s and 60s.
Things aren’t always what they seem, are they? Autumn in south Florida is less like a different season and more like a cooler version of summer. Yet, if you’ve lived here long enough, you can sense the subtle change in the air. A bit of a breeze. A lessening of the humidity. Of course, there are man-made indications, as well. Children have been back in school for a while. Christmas decorations are already beckoning from store aisles that formerly offered patio chairs and barbecue supplies.
People are not always what they seem, either. We make judgments based on assumptions and past experience, but often arrive at wrong conclusions.
The bully in school may be compensating for an alcoholic father. The neighbor who keeps to herself may be afraid someone might see her bruises. The coworker who eats lunch alone may not want anyone to know he can’t afford to join his colleagues at the local restaurant.
The problem isn’t just that we make wrong judgments. It’s also that wrong judgments are made of us. I’ve been misheard, misconstrued, misinterpreted, misunderstood, and misjudged countless times. But I have a choice. I can lash out in hurt, dishing out payback (which I’m sorry to say I’ve done on occasion). Or I can remember that I don’t have all the facts and ask God for the ability to view that other person from His perspective.
God sees what we can’t see and knows what we don’t know. “For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart” (I Samuel 16:7). A good lesson to teach children…and the best way to teach it is to model the behavior in our own lives.
Autumn in south Florida:
Sunscreen at the beach.
An iced latte at the Dunkin’ drive-through.
Flip-flops or bare feet.
Yup. Things aren’t always what they seem.