31 Prayers for My Future Husband: Preparing My Heart for Marriage by Praying for Him

31 Prayers Future Husband (2)Back in 2013 I wrote a post called Happily Ever After, where I talked about preparing for marriage before you have even met the person you are to marry, and I highlighted a book by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer called Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His. It was published in 2012 and I bought it soon after its release. I have been using it ever since, and it is now looking rather battered and worn! :)

This was the first book of its kind to be written and published, and there was nothing out there encouraging guys to pray for their future wives. Recently though I was browsing through Amazon looking at another book when I spotted 31 Prayers for My Future Husband: Preparing My Heart for Marriage by Praying for Him which released in 2016. I was immediately interested as the book I have has only 12 prayers, and decided to buy the book.

Overall rating: :) :) :) :) ~ there were just a few things that stopped me giving it 5.

I liked that there were 31 different prayers covering a range of topics including protecting his mind, making wise decisions, being a good steward, striving for purity, and his relationship with God. Each chapter has a title and then a Bible reference under it.

I was disappointed that the verse wasn’t actually printed out in full. Yes, IBlack Bible understand it encourages you to go and check the Bible reference for yourself, but it does make it easier if the Bible verse is printed there for those times when you don’t have as much time to sit and discover the reference and say the prayer.

Fortunately, there is plenty of space for you to write out the verse yourself, which is what I have done, as the title and reference are on one page and the prayer is on the other.

There are pages after each prayer for you to add your own personal prayer to it, which is nice, and there are 7 challenges scattered through the book to encourage to grow closer to God and ultimately prepare you for being married.

The thing I missed though was the background to the prayers. In the Praying for Your Future Husbandbook Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His  by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer, they both wrote about their experiences first, then there were the prayers, one for your husband, and one for yourself. So in the chapter Pray for Patience Robin talks about how hard it was to wait, Tricia talks of the consequences she had because she didn’t wait. Then also they have a She Prayed…God Answered section where a prayer was said and how the answer came.

In 31 Prayers for My Future Husband, while there is a larger range of prayers, that is really all this book is, a book of prayers. I will still keep using this book, because it covers more things like stewardship and I know will be a valuable addition to my prayers and ultimately a blessing I will appreciate. However, I am now alternating it with the other book. If you don’t have either book, then I would recommend buying Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His first, especially if you have a teenage daughter.Lady Praying

I’ve also been very spoilt by Stormie Omartain’s books, whose prayers have Bible verses interwoven through them. I love this method as praying God’s Word back to Him is very powerful, and I missed them in these prayers. I have though been writing references as they come to mind in the prayers they have to enhance my prayers.

I am glad to see that that there is now a book for guys: 31 Prayers for My Future Wife: Preparing My Heart for Marriage by Praying for Her. Hooray! It’s nice to finally have a book that encourages guys to pray for their future wives!31 Prayers Future Wife

An interesting thing to note is that the 31 Prayers for My Future Husband is a bestseller on Amazon, whereas the Wife one isn’t! I would really like to see that change!

That might mean that it’s parents or grandparents that need to give the book to their sons/grandsons as it seems that it’s not a book single guys are looking for, or maybe not even thinking they need.

As a single myself, I can say with certainty that I would really appreciateMan Praying my future husband taking the time to cover my heart and life in prayer. And I know that if he’s praying for me before I come along, then it’s a habit that he will continue into our marriage…and that’s a blessing I truly value!

So what about you? What’s your story? Did you pray for your future husband/wife? What other books can you recommend on this subject?

~ Wendy Sparkes ~




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  1. I didn’t know about praying for MY future husband, but I used to pray for my daughter’s. I’ve slacked off that because … life … but thank you for this post. I’ll begin again. And I’ll get Robin’s and Tricia’s book for my daughter. She’s 24, but still single and wondering if God has a husband planned for her or if He wants her to stay single. I said, if you have the desire to be married and have a family, it’s not God’s plan for you to be single. However, it doesn’t always happen when you’d like it to. :) So, she’s looking to volunteer with a traveling Christian theater group for a year. Then maybe some kind of missions thing. Wherever God leads her.

    • :) Thank you so much for sharing, Pam! I’m so glad you found this post helpful, and that your daughter will receive the Robin & Tricia book from you. Parents still have a part to play in our futures, even when we are all grown up, and I’m so delighted for the gift you are giving your daughter!

      I’m like your daughter, still single and wondering if God has a husband planned for me or if I’m to stay single. I agree, it doesn’t always happen when you would like it to! I always thought when I was growing up that I would be married and have a family by now…ummm, well no. That hasn’t happened…and I’m older than 24! (I wrote my story of singlehood here http://christianchildrensauthors.com/2013/05/22/who-has-your-heart/.) It sounds like she is doing the right things though, getting involved with something while she waits and living out the season of singlehood she is currently in, instead of putting life on hold because she’s waiting!

      The things I have found helpful while praying for my future husband are:
      #1 – It has focused me on the things I actually need in a husband.
      #2 – When praying for him on a certain subject, it holds me accountable to be the same thing for him! (So even if I don’t get married, I don’t feel like the prayers have been wasted as they are benefitting me now anyway!)

      • I ordered the book right after I posted. :) And I’ll share your blog post with her. I’ve never really been alone for more than a few months, so I don’t know how that feels, but I can imagine.

        I do know what it’s like to be in an abusive relationship where I feared for my life. I’d rather be single. I’d rather my daughter be single than go through what I did because I didn’t know how to love in a healthy way. I hope I’ve taught her well, and I know no relationship is perfect. But she’s seen her daddy and myself married 27 years now and go through marriage counseling together, which brought healing to us.

        The hard part for her is that’s she’s only ever had one boyfriend when she was in her junior year of college. She met him during the summer and dated him for almost 2 years. He turned out to be a total jerk. He’s even in jail now. He cheated on her, lied to her, and emotionally manipulated her … all the while attending church, playing in the praise band, singing and preaching! He fooled hubby and I in the beginning, but we started seeing things and tried to warn her. She handled it well, but wow, he was GOOD. She wasn’t the only girl he was doing it to. It’s a mess. She’s away from him now, but she’s very afraid to trust at the moment, which is understandable. So, I’ll pray this book will help her focus on Jesus more and recognize her future husband when she meets him.

  2. Like Pam, I didn’t know to pray for my future husband! But I did for my children. I’m still praying for my youngest, who deeply desires to marry and have a family, but is frustrated already at age 21 as she sees her friends in relationships and getting married. Praying only for God’s best for her and that He’s molding her and her future husband into the perfect mates for each other. Thanks for this excellent post!

    • :) Thanks Linda!

      I sympathise with your daughter as I struggled with that at 21 too! I’m ok with it now, but back then it was so tough! She’s blessed though that she has a parent covering her in prayer throughout this season, and looking ahead to her marriage.

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