Back in 2013 I wrote a post called Happily Ever After, where I talked about preparing for marriage before you have even met the person you are to marry, and I highlighted a book by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer called Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His. It was published in 2012 and I bought it soon after its release. I have been using it ever since, and it is now looking rather battered and worn!
This was the first book of its kind to be written and published, and there was nothing out there encouraging guys to pray for their future wives. Recently though I was browsing through Amazon looking at another book when I spotted 31 Prayers for My Future Husband: Preparing My Heart for Marriage by Praying for Him which released in 2016. I was immediately interested as the book I have has only 12 prayers, and decided to buy the book.
Overall rating: ~ there were just a few things that stopped me giving it 5.
I liked that there were 31 different prayers covering a range of topics including protecting his mind, making wise decisions, being a good steward, striving for purity, and his relationship with God. Each chapter has a title and then a Bible reference under it.
I was disappointed that the verse wasn’t actually printed out in full. Yes, I understand it encourages you to go and check the Bible reference for yourself, but it does make it easier if the Bible verse is printed there for those times when you don’t have as much time to sit and discover the reference and say the prayer.
Fortunately, there is plenty of space for you to write out the verse yourself, which is what I have done, as the title and reference are on one page and the prayer is on the other.
There are pages after each prayer for you to add your own personal prayer to it, which is nice, and there are 7 challenges scattered through the book to encourage to grow closer to God and ultimately prepare you for being married.
The thing I missed though was the background to the prayers. In the book Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer, they both wrote about their experiences first, then there were the prayers, one for your husband, and one for yourself. So in the chapter Pray for Patience Robin talks about how hard it was to wait, Tricia talks of the consequences she had because she didn’t wait. Then also they have a She Prayed…God Answered section where a prayer was said and how the answer came.
In 31 Prayers for My Future Husband, while there is a larger range of prayers, that is really all this book is, a book of prayers. I will still keep using this book, because it covers more things like stewardship and I know will be a valuable addition to my prayers and ultimately a blessing I will appreciate. However, I am now alternating it with the other book. If you don’t have either book, then I would recommend buying Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His first, especially if you have a teenage daughter.
I’ve also been very spoilt by Stormie Omartain’s books, whose prayers have Bible verses interwoven through them. I love this method as praying God’s Word back to Him is very powerful, and I missed them in these prayers. I have though been writing references as they come to mind in the prayers they have to enhance my prayers.
I am glad to see that that there is now a book for guys: 31 Prayers for My Future Wife: Preparing My Heart for Marriage by Praying for Her. Hooray! It’s nice to finally have a book that encourages guys to pray for their future wives!
An interesting thing to note is that the 31 Prayers for My Future Husband is a bestseller on Amazon, whereas the Wife one isn’t! I would really like to see that change!
That might mean that it’s parents or grandparents that need to give the book to their sons/grandsons as it seems that it’s not a book single guys are looking for, or maybe not even thinking they need.
As a single myself, I can say with certainty that I would really appreciate my future husband taking the time to cover my heart and life in prayer. And I know that if he’s praying for me before I come along, then it’s a habit that he will continue into our marriage…and that’s a blessing I truly value!
So what about you? What’s your story? Did you pray for your future husband/wife? What other books can you recommend on this subject?
~ Wendy Sparkes ~