As parents, we lead by example. Knowing Christ has called us to have a servant’s heart (Luke 17:10), we actively seek opportunities where we can put this calling into action.

But when our volunteer responsibilities overwhelm us, are we the best examples?

There was a time when I was loath of saying “no.” Not only did I feel guilty because I could see the need around me, I wondered if I was truly following what God called me to do. I rarely said “no” to any opportunity because of that feeling of guilt. What I couldn’t see is that because I was tired running from this place to the next, I became irritable with my family. Was that what Christ had in mind when he encouraged His followers to be good servants? I don’t think so.

Now, when a new volunteer opportunity arises, I don’t answer right away. I go home and pray about it. Then I consider my current schedule, how much of a time commitment this opportunity will require, and think about what is best for my family. If it requires too much, I say “no,” but also ask them to keep me in mind for the future. Just because I have to say “no” now, doesn’t mean my schedule won’t open up three months later and allow me to help in another way. I also look for opportunities that allow me to involve my children. That way we are spending quality time together for a good cause.

Balancing volunteer responsibilities with your family’s needs will help show your children how to have a servant’s heart, while letting them know they are important too.