It’s a wonderful time of year. It’s a frustrating time of year. Television advertisements, stores filled with toys galore, and the suggestion that we can never have enough “stuff” can create tension-filled holidays. In the true spirit of service that Christ called all of us to, I want my children to focus more on what they can do for others this time of year than on the many things on their wish list.

Thanksgiving is a perfect time to begin molding a servant’s heart in your child. Each night, either at supper time or right before bed, ask your child to name one thing he is thankful for. If he is reluctant, feel free to share something you are thankful for first. By the time Advent rolls around, your child will  be more aware of how blessed he is. Then it’s time to get him thinking of others.

Here are few ideas to try:

Volunteering

Volunteering is an excellent way to mold a servant’s heart in your child. Whether you choose to volunteer at church, raise money for charities, or help out at a local food pantry, it’s a good idea to consider what causes and issues are important to your family and what skills you have to offer before selecting volunteer opportunities.

Donating gently used items 

Go through clothes, toys, and other household items to decide what can be donated. Ask each family member to donate three gently used items, and then decide as a group which shelter or organization will receive them.

Visiting shut-ins 

Do you have a relative or neighbor who can no longer drive? Plan a family visit to this shut-in. Bring along a baked good or other homemade item to make your visit extra special. Offer to help this person do a bit of shopping or to decorate his or her home for the holidays. You can also check to see if your church has an outreach for shut-ins.

Children are generous by nature. Take advantage of Thanksgiving and Christmas teach them about being a humble servant of the Lord.