Praying for the Mean Girls
I am writing to you as one parent to another. My heart aches because my daughter has been targeted by mean girls at her school. This is not new. It is something that started in middle school and seems to have carried over to high school. We had hoped and prayed this year would be different, but only three days into the new school year we realized nothing had changed.
It’s not easy to watch your child struggle with something like this. It’s difficult not to get angry at the bullies who have changed your child from the strong, confident girl she used to be into a shy, uncertain young woman.
So, I need your help. I need encouragement to pray not only for my child, but for those who have grown up believing this is an okay way to treat their peers. Praying for my children is as involuntary as breathing, but to pray for the people who are torturing her on a regular basis is so hard. Keeping my anger at bay is trying. Allowing my daughter to attempt to work it out on her own with her peers, teachers, and administrators goes against my nature. I want to rush in and help her, but admire she wants to handle this on her own.
In the end, I might have no choice but to get further involved. For right now, though, I ask you to help us seek God’s direction and to help me set a good example for my daughter.
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That is a difficult situation for your daughter and for you. Praying you will find the right direction to follow in this and that you and your daughter will both become stronger for it.
Thanks, Janice. I greatly appreciate it.
I will pray for you and your daughter. I feel your pain. My daughter went through a similar experience when she entered middle school. My husband and her Dad is a pastor. We had moved to a different church in a different town. My daughter was the new kid on the block. She had a turned up nose and a group of girls called her Miss Piggy. It continued until high school graduation.
She carries the emotional scars today. She has a kind humble personality and wouldn’t fight back.
Bullying was horrible. She cried and didn’t want to go to school. I cried with her. She was born premature and almost died. We were so thankful to have her alive and well .
We did everything possible to stop it and to help her to include counseling to deal with the school. Unfortunately , bullying wasn’t dealt with by schools back then.
Looking back I would have changed her to another school. I worked outside the home and homeschooling wasn’t feasible . Please move your daughter from those surroundings if possible. Bullying destroyed my daughters self esteem and self confidence. As I said the scars are still there.
I am so sorry to hear of what your daughter went through, Mary. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and share.
This breaks my heart. I’m so sorry your daughter is having to endure this and I admire you for your restraint. I’m praying for a quick resolution to all this and for your daughter’s protection, both emotionally and physically. I join you in praying for these mean girls and their families. They need Jesus.
Thank you for your kind words, Linda. It’s unfortunate that such behavior exists, but through Christ any miracle is possible.
Continuing to keep you and your daughter in my prayers, and will definitely add those other girls to the list too!