In my last post, I gave you three basics for choosing a new church. But once you choose it, how do you settle into this new church family? Here are six suggestions:

1. Remember it takes time to settle in to a new community, neighborhood, or church. I’ve heard it said it takes about two years before a person feels really at home in a new community. Hopefully it won’t take that long at your new church, but give yourself plenty of time. Nothing becomes familiar or comfortable without regularly spending time on it.
2. Stay long enough after services to meet people. When the last song is sung, don’t bolt for the door. Hang around and visit with the people around you. Introduce yourself and get a feel for this new church body. And don’t limit yourself to only befriending those in your own age bracket. Rich friendships can be made with those older and younger than yourself.
3. Let people know your interests. As you visit with the folks at church, let them know things you’ve been involved in at other churches, in your children’s school, or at work. This lets them know how you might become involved in ministry. It also gives them opportunity to point you to people with similar interests who may be good matches for new friends.
4. Offer to help. There’s no better way to settle in somewhere than to offer your services in an area of need. If you love working with kids and you see a Sunday school teacher is needed, step up and offer to help. Is someone moving and needs help loading or unloading a moving van? Be there to lend a hand. Did someone just have surgery? Take them a meal. Meeting needs not only shows your heart, it’s one of the best ways to build lasting relationships.
5. Join a small group such as a Bible study or a Sunday school class. It’s easier to participate and get to know people better in these smaller settings.
6. Keep a positive outlook. Settling into a new church is not always easy. Give it some time and stay positive. Be an encourager. People love being around someone who builds up rather than tears down. Keep praying for this new church family and your place in it.

Is there a time when you should cut ties and change churches? Yes. We’ll tackle that subject in my next post. But for now, what tips can you give for settling into a new church?