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  1. I got spanked. A lot. I lied. A lot. And I was hardheaded, so it took a while for me to learn. 🙂 My dad would say, “Go into the living room and pull down your pants.” And I would stand there with my pants around my knees (underwear on) and wait for the sound of my dad pulling his belt off. You’d think I would have learned after one or two times, right? But I didn’t. I took my spankings and never shed a tear. Truth be told, the spankings didn’t bother me nearly as much as being told I disappointed my parents. They didn’t learn that right away, so I stood and got my spankings and kept on lying and getting caught. Yeah, I was a terrible liar. Ha!

    Then they realized it wasn’t working and the spankings stopped. Instead, I got lectured while I sobbed and sobbed. THAT changed my behavior and fast!

    I’m not against spanking. Some kids need it. Some kids learn from it. But a parent’s job is to find out what discipline works for their child and use that to teach and guide. The key is not taking it too far.

    • Wow! I didn’t get a lot of spankings, but I remember more than one. This wasn’t my first by any means, but spankings were pretty few and far between. Most of the time they were fully deserved, though I remember one that I felt was unjust. But everyone makes mistakes, and parents are not immune from making them. Overall, I’m thankful for the spankings I received.

  2. My mother was Italian. She swatted me with a wooden spoon on my butt, with my clothes on, one time. After that, she only had to show me the wooden spoon or go towards the drawer where the wooden spoon was kept. I’m not for spanking children. I think there are better methods now.

  3. I grew up being spanked, and I spanked my own kids. Sometimes a spanking is expedient, especially when a child is being stubbornly defiant–it’s swift, and it’s over.
    My daughter tells me she will never spank her kids. I totally support her. The crucial point is to instruct the child in the difference between right and wrong, and impose a consequence when the child does wrong. If you can do it without spanking, more power to you.
    I see too many parents who utilize no consequences whatsoever, and their children are out of control, constantly pushing limits, while the parents relax the limits a little bit more: “If you do that again…”

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